In 1990, as a student, I met my wife. On our first weekend away I drove her mad by calculating how much petrol we have and that it will last to the next stop where petrol would be cheaper. When we stopped and while I was re-filling she bought a chocolate bar, at the petrol station! How could she buy a bar double as expensive than buying it at the supermarket?
What tiny thing drives you mad about your partner?
The wrongly pressed toothpaste? The unfolded milk carton in the tiny bin? The half empty water glass, left over? The open drawer? The pile of clothes?
Often we overreact, wondering later how we could get wound up by such insignificance. I think there is a deeper issue behind. Years before we meet our partners for life we have deeply engrained some “rules”, doing the right thing!
In Plato’s “The Symposium” he writes about love as two people getting together as they see qualities in each other they don’t possess on their own. In his theory love helps us to learn qualities from each and thereby becoming a little bit like they are. Hence, we grow and helping each other to do so.
I stopped being tight, learning, all things need to flow to be replenished.
What could you learn? What trait in your partner you secretly admire?